Forgiveness? 

We’ve heard a lot recently that we have to forgive others as part of the awakening process—so we free ourselves from our traumas. However, this isn’t true of most of us, nor is this how you should go about freeing yourself from your attachments. Only you can free yourself. Don’t aim to seek closure or think your key to freedom lies with another. Go within and ask yourself if you want to give your power away to this person. 

I keep coming across people on social media asking the question: “How are we supposed to forgive those who’ve done bad things to us?” 

How? The freedom isn’t found in forgiving them, but forgiving yourself. This is your true power. 

In the beginning, I struggled with how I’d forgive the perpetrators of the several rapes I suffered. I came to learn during the awakening process that the freedom from the traumas didn’t come until I forgave myself for acting in ways that created the opportunity for these circumstances to occur.  I was only able to forgive myself once I broke free from the negative habits I had that led to the traumas (like no self-esteem, keeping people in my space who did not respect my boundaries, not listening to my intuition, etc.). I had to build the confidence in myself that I could discern what is good for me from what isn’t, listen to my intuition and act accordingly and appropriately, and behave as my authentic self. Once I was no longer burdened by, or attached to these habits, I was no longer bound to my traumas. When I found freedom from these traumas, I no longer felt any ill will or connection to the perpetrators. I just simply don’t allow their energy to have a presence in my life, nor mine in theirs. This is true freedom. I find great solace in knowing I found freedom without giving these people any power over me, or darkening my heart of light with hate or ill will. You’ll feel better with yourself if you do it this way. 

Build self-love and trust in yourself to listen to your inner guidance, and you will find you are no longer attached to the traumas or held in darkness because of them. Don’t allow anyone to darken your heart with hate. Free your soul by breaking free of your shadows and your negative attachment to past circumstances of your own willpower.