Lead Your Own Life

It is within our own power to choose our own paths, to lead our own lives. We’re given the gift of free will in order to carve our own paths, regardless of everything else. Ask yourself, do you feel like the hero of your own story, the leading lady, the main man? 

As you ponder this question, do you feel there are outside forces leading you down a certain way, or to make choices you’d rather not make? Do you feel you have to do this because of lack of funds, or feel you can’t be this person because you’ll be perceived as trashy? Do you feel you can’t show emotion because you’ll be misjudged as weak? We’ve all been there. We were raised to live a certain way, to follow a society built on faulty conditioning. 

But, how do we free ourselves from this conditioning?  Simple, take responsibility for your life.  It is necessary for growth to accept responsibility for your past, and to accept your responsibility to choose well in the future. 

Accepting Responsibility for Our Past: 

Free will is a blessing we all possess as humans. When it comes to rising above our past, we have to accept that because of this free will, we were responsible for everything that occurred in the past—both the good and the bad. Although, it is important to remember nothing is good or bad, we just perceive it that way until we achieve our higher perspective and begin to see the wisdom that there is a lesson to learn in all situations, which is a blessing. We grow this way. 

Do you find yourself feeling guilty about a past action, or regretful of a past hurt? To move beyond this you will have to accept that these situations did in fact happen, and you did for certain choose to allow them to happen. Making bad decisions in the past doesn’t make you a bad person, it’s simply a reflection of your lower vibration, ignorance, and immaturity. But people grow, people change. If you find yourself in a place where you can feel regret, remorse, or guilt, you have grown my friend, and you are above these past circumstances. Take responsibility for your role in the situations, and accept that you are not that person any longer. This acceptance will free you, and allow you to forgive yourself. 

Forgiving yourself is the answer. Never allow yourself to believe that you must forgive another in order to free yourself or find closure. This is a fallacy, a deception. If you seek forgiveness from one who’s done you wrong, or from one you’ve done wrong to, then you give them power over your healing. You cannot find growth and freedom on a soul level if you give your power to release past wrongs to another. 

I freed myself from the horrors I suffered in effect of my being raped several times by realizing my role in allowing these situations to occur, forgiving myself for these weaknesses, and choosing to heal myself from these shadow behaviors. I never found closure in my attempts to have justice served on these perpetrators, nor in trying to get them to understand the horrors they acted out. I took one to trial, and much later, confronted another face-to-face; however, I never freed myself from these traumas by these means. It wasn’t until I forgave myself, and released my negative behaviors that led to these situations, that I no longer felt attached to these traumas. I speak from the hard-earned wisdom I gained the difficult way. To overcome negative feelings of the past, forgive yourself as you are no longer that person, and move forward consciously choosing differently, better. 

Taking Responsibility for Your Future: 

Once you’ve realized your past was a culmination of your choices of free will, you have received the wisdom necessary to knowingly and consciously choose of your own free will, the path of your highest good, and that of others. In doing this, and in being mindful of what consequences your decision will bring, you are then taking responsibility for your own future. You’ve become the leader of your own life. 

How to Bring Change in the Present: 

If you feel society, ideals of beauty, ideas of what’s necessary for survival are controlling your decisions or affecting them in some way, you are not leading your own life. If you feel stuck right now because you feel a path hasn’t opened up that allows you take a step forward without these weighty burdens, you are not alone. I’ve felt in this stage for a long time now. But I’ve realized this is only because I’ve consciously chosen not to walk through the easier, faster doorways that have opened up. Every day I choose not to do what society wants me to, I grow. Although I may feel in the moment like I’m stuck, I get through by reminding myself of the growth I experience by following my own intuition and my dreams, rather than doing what was once comfortable. I tell myself repeatedly how proud of myself I am for not giving up, for loving myself enough to choose what I know will be the best for me and my soul’s journey. I love myself for these decisions, and I know ultimately that this path I am carving is one that will show others the way to freedom. I am a leader who shows others the way, and to do so requires things to be done differently. I am wholeheartedly happy that I am able show great strength and self-confidence as I walk this path and help aid the ascension the highest good of the collective. We all have a purpose or two at this great time, this great shift, and this is one of mine I’ve been called to do. I trust in this. 

Take responsibility for your past, present, and future, and free yourself! As the Foo Fighters love to sing: “Learn to Fly!”